Friday, May 16, 2008

Tiptoe Through the Tulips

Once spring REALLY arrives, I love to get into my perennial garden and dig around. It seems like no matter what I've arranged the previous year, I've gotta move stuff around.... and now, I have a little helper who is INTO IT!


Way, way into it...........


We had a great time getting dirty and playing with plants.


Tucking them in their beds.



Giving them a drink of water.


And don't forget the love and smiles!

My husband who would love our lawn to be like something straight out of a Scott's commercial, is discouraged every year that IT JUST DOESN'T GROW. So yesterday, wonder of wonders, he gave me the go-ahead for a new flower bed! Goodie! LM and I are going to have so much fun! I'll keep you posted on our progress!

Wednesday, May 14, 2008

Answers Wanted!

As a first time mother of an 8-month old daughter, there are several things I just don't understand. There are parenting basics the baby books just don't explain. There are questions that would have been directed at my own mother, if she was still around. And the two adults in my life, Matt and my Dad, aren't much help. My dad's reply usually consists of "You're still alive, aren't ya!"

So if any of you have any answers out there, feel free to comment.
The first thing is the baby outfits. Matt and I always dress Rosa in the footed one piece pajamas. I didn't even realize they are considered pj's until I brought Rosa out with me one night to pick up dinner and the woman behind the counter said, "Oh, I wish I could stay in my pajamas all day!" I nervously laughed and thought to myself... these are pajamas? Have I been dressing my child in pajamas this whole time? What am I supposed to be dressing her in? The baby "dresses" have been too cold, the baby "pants" are too tight around her tummy, and leave her feet exposed when she kicks off her socks. I just don't get it. How do you dress an 8-month old?

The other thing is feeding her solids. For an 8-month old, how many times am I supposed to give her solids? Do I feed her one or two level foods? How about finger foods? Is there a schedule I am supposed to be following? I hate the pressure and I especially hate feeling "out-mommed" by my other mommy friends who lecture me on what I am 'not' doing.

There are many other questions but I reserve my final one to her crawling. I've mentioned this in past blogs, but I can not get my daughter to crawl forward! For the past couple months, she has moved in every other direction but forward. I even placed her bottle two feet in front of her when she was very hungry, and tried to encourage her, but it ended in frustration and tears. I just don't think it's going to happen.

So again, suggestions welcome. Just don't "out-mom" me, I'm doing my best here.

Tuesday, May 13, 2008

Babysitting

My Daughter recently had her first babysitting "gig". I was a little apprehensive, I have never left her alone that late at night. She babysat from 6pm until 11pm. When I dropped her off, I hung around for a little bit after the parents left just to make sure everything was okay. Rather than making good use of my "free" time I ended up going straight home in case my daughter needed me. I seriously expected her to call me. I sat home for the next few hours, nervous, waiting, not so patiently for a call. Too bad it never happened. Everything went smoothly for her...I think I called her 5 times. I guess I was the one who was nervous after all. Lesson learned? Yes, to make better use of my "free" time in the future!

Monday, May 12, 2008

A Mother's Day Thought

My husband's aunt sent this to me..... I really enjoyed it, and I thought some of you might too.

This is for the mothers who have sat up all night with sick toddlers in their arms, wiping up puke laced with Oscar Mayer wieners and cherry Kool-Aid saying, 'It's okay honey, Mommy's here'.

Who have sat in rocking chairs for hours on end soothing crying babies who can't be comforted.

This is for all the mothers who show up at work with spit-up in their hair and milk stains on their blouses and diapers in their purse.

For all the mothers who run carpools and make cookies and sew Halloween costumes. And all the mothers who DON'T.

This is for the mothers who gave birth to babies they'll never see. And the mothers who took those babies and gave them homes.

This is for the mothers whose priceless art collections are hanging on their refrigerator doors.

And for all the mothers who froze their buns on metal bleachers at football, hockey, or soccer games instead of watching from the warmth of their cars, so that when their kids asked, 'Did you see me, Mom?' they could say, 'Of course, I wouldn't have missed it for the world,' and mean it.

This is for all the mothers who go hungry, so their children can eat.

For all the mothers who read 'Goodnight, Moon' twice a night for a year. And then read it again. 'Just one more time.'

This is for all the mothers who taught their children to tie their shoelaces before they started school. And for all the mothers who opted for Velcro instead.

This is for all the mothers who teach their sons to cook and their daughters to sink a jump shot.

This is for every mother whose head turns automatically when a little voice calls 'Mom?' in a crowd, even though they know their own offspring are at home -- or even away at college.

This is for all the mothers who've sent their kids to school with stomachaches, assuring them they'd be just FINE once they got there, only to get calls from the school nurse an hour later asking them to please pick them up. Right away.

This is for mothers whose children have gone astray, who can't find the words to reach them.

For all the mothers who bite their lips until they bleed when their 14 year olds dye their hair green.

This is for all the mothers who taught their children to be peaceful, and now pray they come home safely from a war.

What makes a good Mother anyway?
Is it patience? Compassion? Broad hips? The ability to nurse a baby, cook dinner, and sew a button on a shirt, all at the same time?

Or is it in her heart? Is it the ache you feel when you watch your son or daughter disappear down the street, walking to school alone for the very first time?

The jolt that takes you from sleep to dread, from bed to crib at 2 A.M. to put your hand on the back of a sleeping baby?

The panic, years later, that comes again at 2 A.M. when you just want to hear their key in the door and know they are safe again in your home?

Or the need to flee from wherever you are and hug your child when you hear news of a fire, a car accident, a child dying?

The emotions of motherhood are universal and so our thoughts are for young mothers stumbling through diaper changes and sleep deprivation... and mature mothers learning to let go.
For working mothers and stay-at-home mothers.
Single mothers and married mothers.
Mothers with money, mothers without.
This is for you all. For all of us.
Hang in there. In the end we can only do the best we can.

I had a wonderful Mother's Day. I hope you did too...
 

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